There are so many exactly the same question
my number from the last 1.5 years
“Interesting that on my phone from [home.app](https://home.app/) its user has the status to be accepted at home, but on his phone it remains as an invitation pending and if you click to accept – the same – it spins for 10 minutes and the invitation cannot be accepted. ”
What does Apple say? check your wife? Seriously?